Developing An Optimistic Attitude

How’s your attitude lately? I caught myself doing something surprising a few days ago: being a pessimist! I was working on a big project and making great progress, when suddenly I encountered a big obstacle that would take more time and energy to get through than I had anticipated. The first words out of my mouth were, “Of course, everything always goes wrong for me.” Gasp! Who said that? I tend to think of myself as a positive person most of the time. I almost always have a smile or laugh available, and I try to look on the bright side of things. But I wasn’t always like that. I spent most of my early life stuck in negative thinking. For the past few years I’ve worked very hard on changing my mindset to a positive one, and helping others to do the same. The other day I realized just …

Developing An Attitude Of Gratitude

What does Gratitude really mean? Most of us are thankful for the blessings we have in our lives. We have families we love, jobs that help us provide the necessities of daily living, good health, friends to laugh and play with, freedom and Free Will to live our lives the way we want to. Most of us are very grateful for these blessings, but how often do we stop to focus and reflect on that? Probably not as often as we should. Why is Gratitude even important? Sure, we’re thankful for what we have, but why should we have to dwell on it? There is a very good reason! Have you ever given someone a gift, and when they open it they react with very little enthusiasm? They say flatly, “Oh yeah, thanks, I’ve been wanting one of those.” Their words say “thank you” but their heart says, “big deal”. …

Develop Laser Focus with Zen Patience and Get Results

Discover How Much Time you can Save. Dear Friend, Make the Time to ask these simple questions. Trust me they will be well worth it. * How to develop focus that gives results? * Why is patience so important? We live in a Fast Food world. We want things as fast as possible and we want the best. No one wants to wait anymore. Personally, I hate waiting. Waiting is terrible. Lines at the store kill me and so does waiting for a package to arrive seems to take forever. The worst part about waiting is that I feel that I could be doing so much more with my time and energy rather than waiting. So why am I talking about waiting to you? Here is the secret! I’m not talking about waiting, but Focus, Patience, and the amazing results if you know how to get them. *Patience: Nothing happens …

Detours

An excerpt from “The Role of Your Life”. Life often takes us on detours. Let me guess; when you look back you have come a long way to get to where you are today. Sometimes you feel that, after all, you have learned a lot on your long journey, but you keep wondering why you didn’t choose a different path that specific time in the past, and you regret that you weren’t wiser. Many times we feel regret. The detour we are on is so unnecessary because we know what we once wanted. We can picture ourselves in surroundings that could have been so good. But many of the detours may be necessary. We just don’t learn some things until we have made painful experiences. We could call the detour an unconscious maturity process. We grow, but we do not know how or into what. That can be a costly …

Detour

Direct Answers – Column for the week of March 3, 2003 I’ve been looking for so long to find someone to secretly talk to, to gain some insight, validation, or hope. My situation is the result of the choices I made, but I just need someone to hear me. I have been married eight years. During the short time we dated I knew he wasn’t the true person I thought I’d spend my life with. The day I was going to tell him I didn’t want to see him anymore was the day I learned I was pregnant. It was not intentional. While switching birth control pills, and continually being on them, I didn’t use a backup method. I was not raised to have a child out of wedlock, so I did what I thought was right. He wanted to marry me. I thought it was the right thing to …

Determination in the Inner Self

Many people are not successful at their attempts to take control of their life and frequently say that they lack willpower. Instead of building their self-determination to accomplish their goals, they give in to desires. Other people are successful at taking control of their life. Many of those who are successful will use strategies that help them to improve strength their abilities. It seems that many of people are customary with the accepted expression “as within so without”. This idiom has become a cliché that is universally employed by entities who do not wish to claim or take control of what happens to their life. It seems that people rather blame others for the things that happen in their life. Blaming others is not the way to build self-determination. We all have to take a good measure of responsibility for our behaviors and actions. When an entity chooses to live …

Desire, The starting point of all Achievement

The First step towards Riches In this chapter, Napoleon Hill talks about the starting point of all achivement – Desire. He writes that the desire or impulse to achieve something in life can be so great that any obstacles no matter how big or small can stop an individual from reaching the goal he has set up for himself. A person with burning desire, an obsession with success can go to any lengths until he succeeds. Failure does not bother him and in fact he uses it as a stepping-stone to fuel his burning desire for achievement. Napoleon Hill mentions a couple of stories of everyday common people who in the face of insurmountable odds came out victorious. Read on to understand how desire can change a mans life. Mr.Edwin C. Barnes had one consuming obsession of his life; in fact it was a burning desire to become a business …

Designing A Life – We Each Get The Chance

As we pass through the Seven Gateways to Enchantment again and again and become a true Enchanted Self, we see that life is all about living and then telling and retelling the stories of our lives to get the most positive juice from our stories. This often means taking pain and misfortune and turning it into meaning and even eventually a metamorphosis of pleasure. One example of designing a fulfilling life comes to mind. This is the story of a part of our French cousin’s life. A retired doctor living outside of Paris , Jean Manuel, has often told us the story of his years living hidden in a farmhouse in a French Province . When he was five, his parents were warned that they had to leave Paris . He vividly remembers how terribly upset his parents were. Somehow they found a farmer and his wife who agreed to …

Design Your Perfect Lifestyle

We often fall into the trap of thinking we have to wait until retirement to have our life be just right. (Of course, in retirement people often get bored.) So stop waiting! This article is written to help you design your ideal life. Then ask the question: What would it take to have this NOW, or this year? If that’s absolutely not possible (and it probably is, so look hard!), then you design a plan to reach that. Following is an extract of the Perfect Lifestyle Program. (Better still, you can currently download the full Program free of charge at www.life-coaching-resource.com Look for the Design Your Life option.) Instructions: Print out the following, and create a picture of your ideal lifestyle in the following seven areas. Use the questions as a guide and also add your own questions. Assume money is not an issue i.e. you have plenty. You can …

Depression And Suicide

Eighteen year old Catherine had everything: the most supportive family, a loving boyfriend, awesome set of friends and a comfortable life. But all of these things took a backseat when she was diagnosed with depression. From the bubbly chatterbox that she was, she morphed into a melancholic girl who had nothing in mind but to kill herself. “There is nothing left to live for. I’m worthless and hopeless.” That statement ran in her head over and over again. She wanted to jump off the bridge or drink formaldehyde on a whim. She was suicidal. It took a lot of trips to the doctor and support from her family and friends before Catherine bounced back to normalcy. Now, the melancholia and suicidal thoughts are gone. She has just finished college and is about to start her dream job. Suicide is defined as the act of killing oneself intentionally. It stems from …

Depression – Finding The

Most of us feel depressed or “down” at sometime in our lives but, fortunately, it`s usually short lived. Some people, however, are unable to shake off their feeling of depression and are diagnosed as “Clinically Depressed”. Many types of pills and drugs are prescribed but they often lead to addiction in addition to depression, thus creating a never ending downward spiral. Thousands, and possibly millions, of patients are convinced they`ll never recover which only adds to their sense of low-self esteem. Today, people suffering from depression seek alternative remedies such as acupuncture and various therapies. Cognitive behavioral therapy is one of the most popular as it encourages people to view their problems from a different perspective. It is one of the most successful therapies but not always available on a continuos basis which is essential if the patient is to benefit. People who struggle financially can find this particular therapy …

Demystifying the Powers of Hypnosis

“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe it can achieve.” – Napolean Hill Hypnosis is an enjoyable, easy and effective way to change our bad habits into good ones and our negative feelings into positive ones. All of our emotions, beliefs, and habits reside in the subconscious mind and hypnosis provides direct access to the subconscious mind to replace any negatives with powerful, positive beliefs. While many people think of it as “deep sleep”, hypnosis is a comfortable and relaxed state that focuses attention and concentration, bypasses the conscious mind filter, and allows the subconscious mind to be open and receptive to positive suggestions, tapping into the power of the body-mind connection. Most people experience a heightened state of awareness when they are hypnotized, while only about 10% will enter into a state where their mind is so relaxed that they do not remember the session. People experience …

Demanding Miracles

Have you ever had an overwhelming problem or issue? Was there some circumstance in your life that seemed beyond your ability to handle it? Have you ever called out to God, Buddha, guardian angels, The Force, your higher self, Mohammed, Mother Earth, whatever name you give that spirit? To find an all-encompassing name without prejudice towards any one belief system, I’ll just hereby use the word ‘god’ to refer to whatever or whoever it is that you pray to for assistance and guidance. Have you cried out to your god for help and guidance with some crisis in your life? Did you get an answer? Did you get help? When we get the help and assistance we’ve just asked for, we assume all is well in the heavens. We think, “Wahoo! Miracles really do happen!” However, when we don’t get the answer or the help we were looking for, we …

Delegating Your Way to Time Management

I don’t know about you by my schedule is way too full. Each week I face my planner with a bit of awe and amazement. I wonder how in the world I will get to every appointment, how I will get every task done. By the end of the week I am scrambling to make sure I have accomplished everything. Typically I do accomplish everything however. But it wasn’t always this way. In the past, before I figured out how to manage my time better I would constantly be at the end of the week facing an entire weekend of playing “catch up” with my planner. I’d like to share one of the things I do now that helps me keep my time better managed and my schedule under better control each week. This one tip that I use on a daily basis has been instrumental in helping me be …

Define Your Own Future … Shatter The Crystal Ball!

When I decided to look into remote viewing, I had the impression that it had some bizarre metaphysical and psychic associations. But, in reality, remote viewing is a natural and ‘taught’ method of probing remote locations in the past, present, and future. As I learned and experimented, one of the important things that I discovered is that you cannot accurately predict the future of any person or event. Of course, some would argue this point and I would probably agree that we can ‘see’ the future. But, what I mean is, the future changes far too rapidly based on our experiences and directions for anyone to be truly accurate. — My crystal ball … — When you visit a psychic and ask them to tell you about your future, in some cases, they can be quite accurate. But, realize that your future is only accurate as long as you’re heading …

Define Me

We’ve all had a vision or a great idea and had someone who knows better squash it. We’ve all decided to clear our debts, but been tempted by the next great offer. We’ve all been determined to save up for a holiday or some other thing that will enhance our lives and then been clobbered by a bill that sets us back a month or few. We’ve all affirmed a diet in one moment and been offered chocolate in the next. We’ve all ran a mile from heartache and nightmare, as well as from our dreams or love affairs and we’ve all laughed when we should have cried, cried when we could have laughed and ran ourselves into a downward spiralling place. We’ve all judged ourselves too harshly: beaten ourselves up for what we’re not, what we don’t have and what we believe we can never be. But let’s not …