Addiction Recovery: The Journey From Intervention To Rehab

Addiction recovery can be a long, hard battle for both the person fighting the disease and their loved ones. In fact, the first step in the journey toward recovery is often initiated by the addict’s loved ones in the form of an intervention. If successfully orchestrated, the intervention will lead to the addict receiving the help he so desperately needs. * Preparing for an Intervention An intervention should be performed as soon as possible in order to help an addict recover from his disease. Friends and family should never wait until the addict reaches rock bottom as by then, it may be too late. The devastating effects of addiction, such as financial ruin, loss of family, imprisonment, and even death, …

Addiction: When Gambling Becomes a Problem

While most people enjoy casino gambling, sports betting, lottery and bingo playing for the fun and excitement it provides, others may experience gambling as an addictive and distractive habit. Statistics show that while 85 percent of the adult population in the US enjoys some type of gambling every year, between 2 and 3 percent of will develop a gambling problem and 1 percent of them are diagnosed as pathological gamblers. Where can you draw the line between harmless gambling to problem gambling? How can you tell if you or your friend are compulsive gamblers? Here you can find answers to these questions and other questions regarding problem gambling and gambling addiction. What is the Meaning of Problem Gambling? Problem gambling …

Addicted To Her

Direct Answers – Column I dated a woman I work with for four years. In both our minds we were soul mates. A year and a half ago she broke it off. I never found out the real reasons. After we broke up she would still tell me she loved me and we were soul mates. Of course at the same time she was dating another man, a married man. But it’s worse than that. In college this guy stalked her–her words, not mine. Now, of course, she’ll claim he was “just observing me.” She is still dating him. He is still married. He lives a few hours drive away so it’s easy for him to hide the fact he …

Put some additional self improvement link to your site

As a Webmaster, you are forever searching for ways to make more money from your website. One of the better ways to do this is to add or link some self improvement concepts into the contents. Many webmasters have found that there are a few key programs they can add on their sites for which they can honestly expect to make a few extra dollars, a few hundred extra dollars, and in some cases, a few thousand extra dollars every month. The trick to linking income from third-party programs is to carefully select programs that are relevant to your site visitors, while insuring that the program you promote does not directly compete with your own offerings. If you are giving …

Adages for the New Year

The old familiar adages just don’t do it for me any more. For instance, consider “the early bird gets the worm.” In this age of freelancing, premature ejaculation and peaking too early in one’s career (by age 24) a more appropriate adage might be “The early bird dies earlier.” Another one that has been puzzling me lately is “Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy wealthy and wise.’ Sure it does if the woman is staying up late cleaning the house and taking care of the kids after working a full day at the office. Not only is the adage sexist but it also doesn’t make any sense. Most people who work these hours slave at low …

A Turning Point

19 years ago, I was a young working mother at 28, independent and working for a prestigious company, until circumstances made me choose between family and career. After going through weighing my options, I chose to become a full-time Homemaker because I believed that family should come first if the situation would permit. However, I had a wake-up call four years ago. It happened on a lazy weekday afternoon when my 10 yr. old daughter arrived from school. As an affectionate habit, I’d kiss and hug her, join her in her room, and help her settle down. It’s great hearing how her day has been. But instead of receiving reciprocal warmth, I got a glowering look plus a creased forehead …

Active Relaxation – The Neglected Art

Stress Stress is a serious business. The subject is often in the news: we know that it causes the loss of more working days than physical illness and can lead to serious conditions of the heart and other organs. Stress is taken so seriously these days that employers have a legal duty of care towards their employees. The media put far less emphasis on the natural antidote to stress: relaxation. It might be useful to remind ourselves what relaxation actually means. Far from merely being the absence of tension, relaxing actually requires a positive act of will. Just as a composer writes rests – indicating silence – as carefully as the notes played by musicians, so we need to decide …

A Tricky Supervision Challenge

Many managers believe that treating their team members as responsible adults will assure excellent results. The truth is that while this usually is effective, some people need much firmer limits than others to perform their jobs. Ellen, the manager of a rehabilitation hospital unit, was discussing her frustration in supervising one of her social workers. Ellen would much rather help Angelique be successful at her job than to fire her, but things have not been going well. “When I give her a direction, she says she understands, but then she acts as if she can do just as she pleases.” Angelique has been on the unit for a year and a half, but Ellen has only been supervising her directly …

Activate The Energy Of The Universe

Did you know that you can not create energy yourself? You can just activate the universal energy, which exists always and will always exist. This Energy gave you life. It’s always there, at every moment, for everyone. There is no such thing like people with a lot of energy and other ones without energy. The difference is that energetic people know how to activate this always available energy. And the low energy people, they block this energy, which is although always available for them too! Energy does not decide something like :”Hey I like this one so I will send her energy, and the other one over there I don’t like so he won’t get any of my energy”. This …

A Teller Of Tales

Direct Answers – Column for the week of June 10, 2002 I told my daughter I didn’t think my daughter-in-law paid enough attention to her oldest son, 8. He has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, is on Ritalin, and lately has been kicking and hitting little kids. My daughter and I had a falling out, and she told my daughter-in-law what I said. My daughter-in-law was furious. I tried to explain that I did not call her a bad mother. Well, you can imagine what happened. We haven’t spoken in a week. Do I let time take care of this, or do I send her the letter I wrote trying to explain myself? I am very family oriented and, most of …

Actions of Love

Myrna, 38 and a successful physician, sought my help because she often felt inadequate. While she really valued herself as a doctor, she did not value herself in her important relationships with friends and family. In addition, she said she wanted to be in a loving relationship but she took no actions to meet available men. In the course of our work together, it became apparent that Myrna rarely took loving action in her own behalf with her friends and family. For example, Jessica, one of Myrna’s friends, would often get angry and blame Myrna when Myrna was not available for dinner with Jessica. Myrna would feel guilty and responsible for Jessica’s feelings and meet her for dinner even when …

A System For Goal Setting

Most people will agree that goal setting is an important strategy in obtaining what we desire. If you don’t set goals you will not know what to look for to determine whether an achievement was truly a success or not. The sad thing is that only a very small part of those who understand the need for setting goals actually take the time to figure out what they really want to accomplish and outline a plan for reaching them. It goes without saying that with this approach or shall we say lack of approach, determining which accomplishments are successful or not will be a little arbitrary; ‘more self reliant’, ‘a raise in salary’, ‘clear skin’, ‘a new home’ or ‘a …

Action Vs. Apathy:Just Get Moving!

How many times have you felt truly defeated by the circumstances in your life? You know, the “I don’t know why I bother to keep trying, I’m going back to bed and staying there” feeling. It happens to everyone – housewives, corporate executives, rock stars, actors, world leaders. Each and every one of us has had a day when we felt that we just weren’t able to cope with our daily lives. However, some of us have days like this more frequently than others. Some of us even feel that our entire lives are like this. When we begin to feel this way more often than not, there is a problem. What it comes down to is that we feel …

A Sweep of Vanity: How To Burst Your Own Bubble

“Hoy-day! What a sweep of vanity comes this way!” –William Shakespeare, “The Life of Timon of Athens” If there’s one characteristic we hope we don’t have, it’s vanity. We’d rather be considered aggressive, driven, petty, even mean than have others feel that we think too much of ourselves. Isn’t that hilarious? We’re all vain. The world appears to revolve around us because we literally can’t see it any other way. Our reality is constructed entirely of our perceptions of how everyone and everything responds to us. It’s impossible to remove ourselves from the center of our own universe. That’s our starting point, anyway. We want to veer toward selflessness, but no matter how hard we try, we remain rooted to …

A Surfing Lesson

I’ve never surfed in my life. Sometimes people tell me I look like a surfer, but never once have I been on a board out in the water. It fascinates me though. It was about a year ago that I was standing at the water’s edge with a good friend. She was a surfer who had competed professionally and had hosted a surfing show on TV. We were watching surfers and I was asking questions about waves, boards, techniques, etc. That day I got much more than a lesson on surfing. I got a lesson on life. My friend was telling me how to “catch a wave.” She explained that before a wave comes, you must be moving in the …

A Suicide Attempt A Minute

525,600 minutes and 531,000 suicide attempts per year in the US . 21% of 12 year olds are sexually experienced. Among high school students 27% smoke cigarettes, 36% were passengers with an intoxicated driver, 1/3 were drunk in the last month, 26% smoked marijuana, 16% had used inhalants to get high. Road rage and air rage are front page news. While media and peer influences, the high divorce rate, latch-key children, and drug availability are part of the problem, biology plays a far greater role than has been previously recognized. Public misconception, misinformation and prejudice are making the problem worse. Surgeon General Dr. Satcher is correct in stating that the stigma must be removed for mental disorders, as has been …