Memoirs of A Geisha

How can a simple recommendation to see a beautiful movie stir up so much controversy? I write an online newsletter and had suggested to my subscribers that they see the movie “Memoirs of a Geisha.” I received a barrage of emails from around the world inquiring why I was encouraging people to see a movie that is about a child sold into a cruel and forbidding world to be trained her entire life to serve men. Though the geisha are not prostitutes, the many people who questioned my recommendation didn’t want to see a movie that had to do with the exploitation of women. I sympathize with this viewpoint. My response was to see the movie for the same reason …

Manifesting”- Just Another Buzzword or…?

Being new to a lot of the contemporary self-improvement thing, I’m still trying to get used to this word, “manifesting”. It just wasn’t in everyday use for the biggest part of my life. In high school and college, though we may have been trying to “manifest” a party or a member of the opposite sex, we sure weren’t using that word. How many times did you have to manifest a ride to somewhere? That was my constant mission. Or how about “blogging”– another example of a new buzz word that many people don’t quite get– or what about “cell” phone? How many of us really know how the word “cell” applies to our wireless mobile telephones? Anyway, I digress. So, …

Life With Woody

It might take a little coffee or probably a few rounds of beer or any other booze you could get your hands on when it comes to relaxing after a hard day’s work. Well, yeah I’m guilty about that one as well, unless I’m caught dead wearing a lampshade over my head after a few rounds of vodka… half-naked! Okay, bad example and I apologize to everyone reading this after getting nightmares about me in that state of drunken stupor. Just don’t ask how it happened, please. But what’s really interesting is that how do people go through the usual part of life when faced with vein-popping stress? I mean, the new age thing like Zen or yoga is one …

How to Recognize Stress Before it Turns Into Anger

After a stressful day as a computer programmer, Jim pulled into his driveway. The children’s toys were scattered on the walkway to the house. He immediately began noticing slight tension in his muscles and apprehension in his stomach. Entering his house, his wife ignored him while she talked with her sister on the telephone. His heart started beating a little faster. Looking around, he noticed disarray; nothing was picked up, the house was a mess. Irritation and frustration started to settle in. Finally, as his feelings grew, he exploded and began yelling at his wife and children. Stress may trigger anger: Stress is often the trigger that takes us from feeling peaceful to experiencing uncomfortable angry feelings in many common …

How do I date beautiful women, even celebrities?” my idiot client asked…

Are you a guy who’s interested not only in dating beautiful women, even celebrities, but would like to get beautiful women to approach YOU first? Can it really be done? The answer is an unqualified “yes” IF you know what to say and do, and what to avoid saying and doing. Most guys have no clue about the day to day life of stunningly beautiful women. They have no idea how many times a DAY these beautiful women are approached by guys whose obvious interest is to “sex them up.” And for celebrities, it’s even worse. Day in, and day out they hear the same thing: “oh you’re such beautiful women… do you have boyfriends… can I take you out…” …

Did Your Personality Choose Your Career?

We almost all think we are masters of our own fate. While it is true that we all make our own choices there are many things that influence what we choose. Ask yourself: Why do some people choose professions that help only themselves while others of us choose professions that help those in need? Health and wellness professionals all share the desire to help others. Our work is commendable and very important, but why do we choose the profession we’re in? Professionals in the “caring jobs” share some unique qualities. We’re almost always creative, sensitive and nurturing. We also almost all share a willingness help others in every way possible and suffer pangs of guilt if we say “no.” Our …

4 Steps to Assertive Communication

“Dr. Fiore,” my 42 year old married patient (Mary) began, “once again my family expects me to host Christmas dinner and I am simply too exhausted; what should I do?” “Why not tell them how you feel?” I asked. “Because I don’t want to hurt their feelings – I always feel guilty if I don’t do what is expected of me.” Lack of communication such as this among family members is the root of much conflict, hurt and misunderstandings any time of the year, but especially during the often stressful holiday season. Mary’s dilemma is common: she wants to be a nice person and avoid conflict with family members. But, in doing so, she feels resentment and other negative emotions …

4 Simple Ways To Get Over Your Need For Acceptance…And Get On With Your Life

Imagine what your life would be like if you could just be yourself, without thinking twice about what other people think of you! Here are four quick tips that will help you get over your need for acceptance. Make these four things a part of your daily routine and you’ll find that people will judge you less and accept you more! 1. See Yourself as a Success You’re probably familiar with that little voice inside your head that tells you you’re never good enough. Instead of letting that voice continuously judge what you didn’t do right; focus on an actual moment in your life that makes you feel wonderful. This could be a moment at your wedding, the birth of …

4 Secrets Men Keep And Why You Should Let Them

Many of us believe that if we are close to our man, we should know everything he is thinking, the secrets he keeps are little enemies, tearing us apart. Nothing could be further from the truth. It is absolutely necessary for each person in a relationship to have their own personal world, their thoughts, feelings and boundaries that belong to them and no one else. Being close doesn’t mean being “fused” into one person. It means loving, honoring and respecting the other and sharing what it is that can be shared. If a man (or woman) feels that there is no room for them to have their own thoughts and experiences while in a relationship, they can easily feel that …

4 Quick, Easy Ways to Say No to People Who Take You for Granted

No matter how wonderful you are sometimes other people will try to take advantage of your good nature. They will push you, get you to do more than your fair share and keep asking you to do even more. And worst of all — often your efforts will be taken for granted. Unless you can say No, the situation will not change in fact it may get even more difficult. That is unless you can say No to these unreasonable people because very often to win respect from people you have to sometimes say No. Here are 4 great ways to stand up for yourself and say No: 1. Soften the No Instead of shouting No at the person and …

4 Powerful Ways To Fire Up Your Motivation

It’s so difficult to go on when everything seems to fail, isn’t it? Are there times in your life when you really want to call it “quits” because you just can’t see any good results from all the hard work you’ve done? Hold your horses! Never ever think of giving up. Winners never quit and quitters never win. Take all negative words out of your mental dictionary and focus on the solutions with utmost conviction and patience. The battle is never lost until you’ve abandon your vision. But what if you’re really exhausted physically, mentally, and most of all emotionally? Here are some sources of motivation to prompt you in reaching the peak of accomplishment. 1) The Overwhelming Feeling of …

4 Important Conversation Tips for Your Personal and Professional Lives

If you are searching for a way to improve your communication skills at work and in your personal life, here are some conversation tips that will give you a good starting point. Your personal and business environments may be very different, but the skills needed to communicate effectively are basically the same. If you are attentive, informed, and a great listener, you can start a conversation with almost anyone in any situation. 1. If you need to improve your conversational skills in the workplace, look around at those who seem to continually advance in their profession. Notice how they speak with other employees, from the CEO to the janitor. A friendly smile, a firm handshake, and a confident attitude are …

4 Helpful Ways To Beat Shyness

Over half of all adults identify themselves as shy. Shyness can get in the way of developing personal relationships and professional aspirations. Some people are afraid to simply walk into a room and surround themselves with strangers. Some shy people hate eating in front of others and some hate parties or other types of social occasions. The fact is that there are many ways to beat shyness if you have the desire and the willpower. Shyness is more common than most peop le realize. Shy people are not necessarily introverts, some are extroverts who happen to be shy. If shyness is keeping you from advancing in your career or maintaining personal relationships, there are various ways to beat shyness and …

3 Ways You Can Live Like Oprah Today

Who wouldn’t want to live like Oprah? She has billions of dollars to do with however she likes. She has luxurious estates in beautiful places. She has powerful and influential friends. She is adored by millions and has influence beyond comprehension. Yet, these things are not what inspired my article. What I am sharing may surprise you. So how do we mere mortals get to live like Oprah? Read on. Like Oprah, you too can live a life of gratitude I was incredibly moved to read about the “Legends who Lunch” event Oprah planned recently. Here is undisputedly one of the most influential and successful women today, planning an event to pay tribute to the “legends” who have contributed and …

3 Ways to Super Charge Your Affirmations

“One comes to believe whatever one repeats to oneself sufficiently often, whether the statement be true or false. It comes to be dominating thought in one’s mind.” — Robert Collier Repetition of words creates repetition of thoughts. Repetition of thoughts creates reality. By intentionally choosing the words that wallpaper your mind, you change the tone of the room in which you live and you change the life you are living. ******* The Power of Words ******* We typically dilute our words by drawing them from vague and conflicted states of mind. We present a muddy impression on the creative medium in which we live and our reality mirrors our dull efforts. This is so easy to remedy that you may …