How To Become Bullet Proof From Criticism

If someone has ever wounded you with careless, unkind or sarcastic remarks or criticism then read on! By the end of this article you will be armed with useful and practical ideas to save yourself from internal and external damage. Let me first say that ‘criticism can be useful. In fact, we need to be able to hear and process this kind of feedback in order to progress in life. Otherwise we would be ‘legends in our own lunchtimes’ and it would be hard to improve our performance or behaviours. But – words can hurt! And they can go deep – last for years – decades & lifetimes and severely constraint people’s lives. They can also be meant in other …

A Better Approach to New Years Resolutions. . .or Any Resolution

WHY DON’T RESOLUTIONS WORK? Let’s face it: the truth about traditional New Years resolutions (and resolutions in general) is that they don’t really work. Here is why: Most resolutions are little more than fancy-sounding “shoulds,” or, at most, good intentions. Good intentions by themselves rarely result in lasting change! They merely signify that we wish we had more motivation, readiness or willingness than we yet have. This is why making a resolution based on good intentions alone is a sure path to feeling inadequate, guilty, shameful, hopeless, or stupid later… once you realize you didn’t succeed in making your resolution come true. Fortunately, there IS a way to greatly improve your chances of having your resolutions come true. There are …

A Case for Dating via the Internet

Believe it or not, there are some men and women who have not ventured into internet dating yet. By not exploring this avenue, these people are missing an important avenue for meeting wonderful men and women like themselves that are having a hard time meeting someone decent to date through more traditional means and their normal daily activities. A coaching client, Sally* is a 40 year old woman who has n.ever married and was having no luck meeting appropriate men. She is a shy woman who dreaded s.ingles events and “putting herself out there”. So I encouraged her to explore her perspectives on dating on the internet. “It’s scary out there” came up first. She was afraid of the unknown …

10 Steps to Getting Unstuck

Have you ever found yourself in the state of being “stuck”? No, I’m talking about being stuck trying to get into your driveway on a snowy day. (Though I’ve been there.) And I’m not talking about being stuck in the mud on a messy spring day. (Though I’ve been there too—recently!) The “stuck” that I’m referring to involves not moving forward in some area of your life. It’s the paralysis that a writer sometimes encounters along the road to finishing her novel. Or the inactivity that persists during an entrepreneur’s attempt to finish an important project. It’s the frustration that comes from feeling as though you just can’t seem to get from where you are to where you want to …

7 Places to Find the People You Need

Where do you go to find the PEOPLE you need to make your dreams a reality? Read the 7 suggestions below to get started. You might find the people you need are closer than you think. 1. Form or participate in a success team. This is my secret. For every major project I commit to I surround myself with other people with similar goals. For example: I wanted help keeping my business on track. I formed a group with three other business owners who had the same goal. We learn a ton from each other, share resources, provide feedback and offer unending encouragement. We’ve been together for over a year and they play a big role in my ability to …

9 Strategies For Regaining Your Work Life Balance

I like working with independent professionals and artists because of the way the work life balance shows itself in our lives – for us, life, work, and business exist in a nexus from which we cannot easily extract our ways of loving, relating, and making meaning. The challenges we face in business inform our personal lives and personal challenges affect our businesses. Rich as it is, the relationship between personal and professional life can be rocky and maintaining the work life balance is often a tricky issue. I experienced this recently when, within a few weeks of declaring some audacious goals for my business, a routine mammogram turned up some abnormalities. In the following weeks I had additional mammography, a …

5 Survival Tools for Thriving in Any Life Storm

If you are conscious and honest with yourself, challenges occur in your life. Some of these challenges will be small. Others will seem to shake the very foundation of your life and make you wonder why you were ever born. It is at times like the latter that you need tools in your shed to help you weather the storm. 1. Connect with Spirit/God/the Universe. This is the first and most important tool. Nurturing your connection to a Higher Power will alleviate the feeling of loneliness that often comes when we feel that life is raining on us. When you are solidly grounded in Spirit, you know that life is always on your side despite what it may look like …

5 Tips to Make the Right Decisions in the Midst of Chaos

“In a moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing to do. The worst thing you can do is nothing.”–Theodore Roosevelt As I wandered a parking lot looking for my car I realized the quality of my decision making skills shrunk drastically in the midst of chaos. We make hundreds of decisions daily. They’re the heartbeats of our lives. They make or break us. Are we making good ones? The ones that make a huge positive impact in how we feel about who we are, how we spend time, the growth of our businesses, and the difference we make in the world. The schedule is packed, the pressure is on, and we maintain our responsibilities …

Spare a gram of Self-Confidence?

As the lady walks into the room to give her presentation, everyone nods their head in approval as she exudes a cool, calm assurance that everything’s under control. There’s no describing self-confidence. You know it when you see it! There are many situations when we feel as if we could do anything, deal with any obstacle, take on any task or job yet at other times, we simply just run out of steam! Sandra Baptist tells us how we all can learn to exude that trait that makes us feel confident about what we are doing and about who we are. 1. Increase your knowledge The best method to increasing your self-confidence is to work on improving your knowledge and …