How To Become Bullet Proof From Criticism

If someone has ever wounded you with careless, unkind or sarcastic remarks or criticism then read on! By the end of this article you will be armed with useful and practical ideas to save yourself from internal and external damage. Let me first say that ‘criticism can be useful. In fact, we need to be able to hear and process this kind of feedback in order to progress in life. Otherwise we would be ‘legends in our own lunchtimes’ and it would be hard to improve our performance or behaviours. But – words can hurt! And they can go deep – last for years – decades & lifetimes and severely constraint people’s lives. They can also be meant in other …

How Empathy Can Reduce Your Anger

Jim, a 42-year old engineer was teaching his eight-year-old son how to fly a radio-controlled airplane. As the airplane was taking off, Jim instructed his son to push the control stick on the radio to the right. He did and the airplane turned to the right. This was repeated several more times until the airplane turned full circle toward the son, ready to land. “Push the stick to the right,” said Jim. This time, however, the plane turned left. “Push the stick left,” Jim said. Now the plane turned right, as if it suddenly had a mind of its own. “I’m confused,” said the son. “How do I know which way to push the stick when the plane behaves differently …

A Global Empathy Deficit- 2 Lessons

“…We’ve got a budget deficit that’s important, we’ve got a trade deficit that’s critical, but what I worry most is our empathy deficit.” – Interview in O Magazine with Barack Obama. Perhaps this is not only a US national concern but a global crisis: people are dividing into camps and fighting one another with no mention of sitting down to dialogue. We, as global human beings living on a shrinking planet, have to stop the insanity, start talking, and stop the fighting. The fighting is not only among warring nations. It goes on in corporations, small businesses, between entrepreneurs, in schools, in neighborhoods, and in families. There is a lack of talking, listening, and empathizing between people. This is especially …

How Is Your Self-Esteem?

The development of a positive self-concept, or healthy self-esteem, plays a major role in life success and happiness. Self-esteem is quite simply how we feel about ourselves and our behavior clearly reflects those feelings. The way we talk about ourselves is very important in everything we do. What we think determines how we feel and how we feel determines how we behave. A strong positive self-concept allows individuals to open themselves to new opportunities and challenges both personally and professionally. People who lack self-esteem are less willing to move from their safety zone and so miss opportunities in life, love, and success. We can often place the blame for low self-esteem on people in our past such as our parents, …

5 Tips On How To Build Self Confidence Today

There are very few people who could call themselves perfect and be right. Most of us need to build self confidence today, but the majority just either ignore the issues or concentrate on the negatives: stress, worry, jobs, money problems and relationship issues. Concentrating on these areas drains our self confidence rather than improving it. If you could improve your self confidence you could make more money, look and feel better physically, or just be more relaxed with other people. Below there are five simple techniques that have been proved to help build self confidence today. 1. Talk to yourself. It sounds crazy but it works. All of us have a running monologue constantly in our heads, whether we realize …

5 Steps for Building Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is an all important trait you need to acquire in today’s fast-paced world. For one thing, you must have confidence in yourself first to earn the confidence and respect of others. The following strategies may be useful to overcome such self-conquering thought habits. Consider these steps as the building blocks for greater confidence in any aspect of your life. 1. Concentrate on your strengths rather than on your weaknesses. Confidence comes from within. You have to concentrate on the positive things about yourself. Remember the past is over; you can only change the future. Write down ten positive things about yourself. Concentrate on your potentials. These are the reasons you should love yourself and have high self-confidence in yourself. …

Reboundability: An Essential Skill for a Successful Life!

Do you have difficulty recovering from mistakes, failure and disappointment? Do you find yourself reliving these setbacks over and over? Do certain life situations or challenges have you stressed to the max? Was that a resounding YES? If so, you may want to invest some time into acquiring the skill of quick “reboundability”. Reboundability is essential to leading a productive, successful and happy life. Life is full of change, stress, disappointment, setbacks, failure, illness, injury, loss of competitions or jobs, death, and so on. How we handle these types of situations is what makes the difference between being joyful, successful individuals and those who wallow in self-pity, and stay stuck in habits of worry, fear and insecurity. What does it …

Self-Confidence – 3 Things You Can Do When You Have None

Self-confidence is one of the keys to achieving success – you hear that everywhere. Most people think self-confidence is a result of success, but it’s actually an ingredient of success. How do you gain self-confidence so you can attract the success you seek? 1. Fake it! Though it sounds ridiculous, faking confidence when you have none will actually give you some! Self-confidence is a perception held by you and others. If you act self-confident whether you feel it or not, others will perceive you as self-confident and be more willing to follow your lead, take you seriously and listen to what you have to say. It’s the great paradox where confidence is concerned, almost a “which comes first, the chicken …

Obstacles In Building Self Confidence

Do you know what’s holding your self confidence back? It’s great that you have decided to build your self confidence. However, there are a few obstacles that can keep you from achieving your goal. Most of the time, these obstacles are so obvious that they do not seem like obstacles at all, and all you can see is that your resolve to be self confident is not taking you anywhere. Therefore, it is important to become aware of these seemingly harmless obstacles that have all the power to stop you in your path. Let’s have a look at what could be the reasons that you are not moving ahead in top gear. Are You Undisciplined? Some people simply have the …

MARTIAL ARTS – 5 Ways Too Build Your Self-Confidence

If you appreciate a strong, healthy self confidence that carries you through overwhelming times and drives you to achieving your most far reaching goals, martial arts is for you. A person’s self-confidence is like a muscle, it needs to be exercised in order to grow and develop. In the 20 plus years that I’ve been teaching Martial Arts in our community we have developed a 5 step approach to building self-confidence. These 5 steps can be learned by anyone – with the right guidance: 1. Correct Body Posture. The importance of the correct body posture is paramount. We all send hidden, sub-conscious messages with our body language and the way we carry ourselves. Carry yourself with pride, confidence and security. …

Love Yourself Like Your Neighbor: Turn Self-Criticism into Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is important to all of us. In the stress literature, it’s one of the characteristics of the hardy professional, the professional that remains healthy in the face of the high stress of constant change. It’s important, but how do you build and maintain a viable and realistic self-confidence? One way to look at self-worth is to see it as an inference from what you to say to yourself privately about yourself. It’s estimated that you make between 300 to 400 self-evaluations per day. Unfortunately, for the majority of us, those evaluations are far from kind. Most major in self-criticism. Research suggests that for the average person 80% of their self evaluations are negative; only 20 percent are positive. A …

Is it Self-Esteem or Self-Confidence or what lies in between?

Is it Self-Esteem or Self-Confidence or what lies in between? – By Joseph Ghabi I was driven towards looking to the self-confidence and self-esteem in ourselves on a deeper level. How do we evaluate the two? On a human level and perhaps whilst growing up, our religion, the influence of the culture of where we grew up in and our parents, are all factors that influence and contribute to our level of self-confidence and self-esteem. How do we define those fancy words we consistently hear, and where do we begin to determine the effect of them? Self-Confidence is the level of where we are aware of ourselves, in concern of our abilities, gifts and knowledge. The opposition is lack of …

Improve Self Confidence By Being More Care Free

Many people in life feel that they have a lack of confidence or that they have a low self esteem. In this article, I give free tips on how to imporove your self-confidence and how to increase your self-esteem. I myself have managed to change my whole life by using the information below which I am going to share with you. I hope it also proves beneficial for you. I am Stephen Hill from Birmingham in England. I was always somebody who had many confidence issues as I grew up, from a child, through to adulthood. I would feel very sorry for myself and would often be down and depressed. The issues that I had in my life were: A …

How To Gain Self-Confidence Without Breaking The Bank

SELF-CONFIDENCE is a very big word. It spells the difference between getting that highly-coveted job, that much-awaited promotion (and consequent salary increase), drawing the right friends and yes, even in attracting – and maintaining – that elusive romantic relationship. Self-assurance is so important that many How to Gain Self-Confidence books, courses and seminars have been launched just so you can tap that ‘hidden power’ that is the key to life, love and happiness. How to Gain Self-Confidence – Simple Ways to Unleash the Power Within You Anybody can start gaining self-confidence and the great part is… even just simple changes can bring about monumental effects in your life. So check out our How to Gain Self-Confidence tips and start looking …

How A Woman Can Manage Her Anxieties And Self-Confidence

Some women may have a difficult time in managing their anxieties and fears. In addition, a woman’s self-esteem and self-confidence can also suffer. As a result, here is a list of techniques a woman can use to help manage their fears and improve their self-confidence. The first step a woman must do is to learn effective techniques that will manage their fears and anxieties. A person can seek help from a professional and they can read some books to get some ideas on how to manage their fears. There are ways to manage your fears, but the person must make an effort to find these techniques that will work for them. Doing something over and over again until you get …

Gaining Self Confidence To Succeed In Anything!

Where does self confidence come from? How do we get it? Why don’t I have it? The answer to all of these questions can be answered with one word – you! Self confidence starts with you, your perception of yourself, and what other people think about your actions or behavior. For some of us, a lack of self confidence only affects our high ambitions. You might have always wanted to get up on stage, or to be a professional singer or actor for example. Perhaps your life dream is to travel the world, visit different countries or cities, but you don’t have the self confidence to do it. For others, the problem of self confidence is much closer to home …